A Guardian writer recently described one of the subjects of a documentary about teenagers and the internet as a girl who “let herself be gang raped” to get her Blackberry back. When readers freaked out, the paper changed the phrasing to “let herself be sexually assaulted.” Seriously?
Henry Rollins shares his thoughts on the Steubenville rape case and it’s one of the few more nuanced pieces that I’ve read floating around online. Really great read…
“Many people are angry that more time was not given to the offenders…I understand the anger but don’t know if adding a decade onto their sentences would be of any benefit. To me, the problem that needs to be addressed is where in the information chain were the two offenders made to understand that what they did was not wrong on every possible level? You can execute them both tomorrow but still, there is a problem that needs to be dealt with.”
Why do we use cases like these as an opportunity to renew the conversations with our daughters about needing to protect themselves when they go out, about not wanting to end up like that poor, poor drunk girl? When we point out that she was drunk, when we point out that the boys’ promising future is “ruined,” we are reminding women and girls everywhere that their own safety lies entirely in their hands, and not in the hands of those who make the choice to attack them.”
I came across this post on Jezebel the other day and was pretty shocked after reading the first paragraph…it reads, “Rapists and would-be rapists are opening up about “the other side of the story” — theirs — on a massive Reddit thread about the motivations behind sexual assault. The conversations range from exasperating to disturbing, and the whole of it may make you want to roll your eyes in disgust. But you shouldn’t dismiss the thread as mere rape apologia. There’s plenty of that, sure, but there’s also a lot more to it.”
I don’t quite know how to feel about the fact that there’s a forum for rapists on Reddit, of all places. I understand the value in opening up this conversation and taking it away from the usual thread of victimization and towards that of motivations, but still…the whole thing gives me the creeps. Is this a necessary conversation and the step towards deconstructing our rape culture? Haven’t sorted out my thoughts/feelings regarding this but thought I’d share with you. Your thoughts?